About Letting Go

They keep telling us that letting go is about forgiving and forgetting. They say when you do forgive and forget you are released from the past, from the abusive relationship, from the ghost of that person hunting you. But, what if you forgive, and forget, and try to move on but still feel stuck in their energy? As if they have octopus arms that keep dragging you back to their being, and there seems no way to escape!

Maybe what you have been told all your life is wrong. Maybe in some cases it is not enough to just forgive and forget. Maybe, just maybe, you need to walk one extra mile in their favour so their arms are unwind and you are able run your own life. You believe he/she is a devil, who doesn't deserve good? Maybe they are, but the universe has other plans than having them punished directly for the wrong the did to you. Maybe, they are not as bad as you believe. Maybe, it is all about walking that extra mile to release yourself. It is about you, not about who they are or what they did.

Now I understand the "turn your cheek" in a whole different way. It is not just about controlling your anger, or not being vengeful. It is about being GENEROUS, not to those who hurt you, but to yourself! Being generous and wise enough to leberate your soul from the past, the people, and everything that could tie you down and limit your being.

Walk that extra mile, send them a gift, help them out, be the good in their life (which you really are).

To George Michael

Dear George,

I was shocked to read the news that you passed away. That was not expected at all! It is such a loss. You were one of my best friends, though we never met! My good friend is dead!
You know you don't have to meet someone to be friends with. But, if their words affect the way you grow that is even a better reason to become friends, at one side of course!

You taught me good music, added to my vocabulary, emotions, self respect, caring for others, you taught me how to be human!

I get consumed in my day to day life, years pass while am trying to maintain a "good" life. Confusions, disappointments, heartbreaks, but I always knew I got my back. I would always turn to you when I felt the urge to let my emotions rush out of my heart. 

Now I feel old, one of my best friends is already dead. I am not a young woman anymore, only a middle aged stuck in this world. I lost my youth over fake people and lost dreams. 

Regret, is what I feel writing this, one of my dreams as a teenager was attending one of your concerts. And though I have been to the UK twice before, I never considered attending any concert for you! You were my good friend but maybe I was not as good as you after all! It is funny how I forgot yourself, trying to make a life, trying to fit. But, I only realised I were lost when it is too late! You are gone!

Maybe, I can make good use of this shock, and get back on track. Get back on the road that I have always wanted to take. Get back to the one I really am. And whenever I feel tired, I know you will be there for me. 

So long George, see you in a better world than this is...

Intentions

"When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it." - Paulo Coelho

Intention is not a wish, it is a decision. A decision to make a change, a decision to keep going no matter what teasers could be thrown your way to change your mind. Intention is a feeling of peace inside, a feeling that you know exactly what you want. And that you know as well it may not be easy to achieve it. Intention means you decided to take that leap of faith, and there is no going back.
If you have the real intentions, the universe will help you do it.

Life Phases

As you watch a baby grow, you see that this happens in phases; there's the phase when he didn't know how to sit, but then he learns to, then he starts to crawl, then walk, then talk...and so on.
You never see a baby who sticks to any of these phases, or tries to go back to a previous one, he never decides to stop walking and lay in bed as he used to before he learned to sit.

Phases are clear when it comes to those little humans. As we grow older, our growth and maturity happens inside of us, it is mental and emotional, not physical and tangible as it happens with the babies. But, we tend to not be willing to grow up or mature. We try to stick around that latest phase we have accomplished. We believe that growing up is painful.
We need to learn from the babies that when a phase is over we should let go, and enjoy all the excitement about the new phase, never look back. We should love that we matured into a new person.

The easy path or the right path?

We are frequently challenged in life, life would ask a question and throw many answers from which we have to choose only one. By human nature, we tend to choose the easiest answer, which is unfortunately the wrong answer. You were challenged in the first place to grow, to learn something new about life or about yourself. It is a chance that life offers you to mature, to become a better version of you. Choosing the "easy" answer, or path won't take you anywhere. You will only keep running in spirals and you will have to face the same question again.

When life throws a challenge in your way, take your time, think, find which of them makes you most uncomfortable. That is the right answer...the right path. All you need to do then is take the "leap of faith"...and before you know it all your fear will be gone, and everything becomes under control.
Never let fear choose for you!

Expectations

Wishing for something is one thing, and expecting how it is going to happen is another.
We often wish for things expecting we get them a way or another, blinding ourselves from other odd ways that could lead to our wishes. Clinging to the method rather than the goal, focusing on the how and the when instead of being open to all possibilities. That is how we often have our wishes disregarded.

Open your eyes and heart. Don't be afraid. Your wishes could be granted in the most extraordinary ways.

I will be a failure!

"I will be a failure"...She said...

The only way you can "be a failure" is when you stop trying, and this is a decision.
Though, from time to time you have to experience failure, so you learn new things about yourself. You grow up to a better version of yourself. And that is a decision too.

When you fall down, you gotta decide if you will stay down or if you will pick yourself up again. When you stand up again, you do learning a lesson.

While this happens, you may spend months or even years. And those years are not really wasted, actually they are your best. The ones you used to mature. Maybe you won't see a tangible result. But, deep inside you will feel it.

You are not a failure, unless you decide to be.