It has been so long I didn't write anything to you. I had a talk with a turkish friend about the adoption of a Syrian refugee from turkish orphanage, and I came to a conclusion that it will be very hard that I have to give up the idea. And, now I have accepted that I will go for Egypt.
The System Crashed!
Monday, 12th of October 2015
On that day, I decided it is time to go and apply for adoption. But, first I had to get some certificates to have all my papers ready for the application. I went to the police office. I asked for copies of both, my birth certificate and my divorce certificate. The thing should take few minutes, but, for some unknown reason, it took about an hour! The employee there suggested it is because of updates made to the databases for the parliament elections. As a software engineer I know it shouldn't be this way. But, as always, I said nothing. First, I received the copies of the birth certificate. Then, the employee asked me for the name of my ex-husband, how funny, for a second I forgot it! I even couldn't mention his full name, though we are back in contact for almost a year now! We were divorced about 9 years ago. I felt happy that I reached that point of forgetting the past! I kept waiting for too long for the divorce certificate, and the queue was becoming too long. After about an hour waiting, the employee told me the divorce system has crashed, and I can't get the copies that day! Well, I knew that I had one copy left at home, and I felt a bit hopeful, maybe that's the last copy I would ever need, and things will change soon!
I left the office, went to a stationary shop, made photo copies of whatever papers I had with me, then I asked around for the adoption office. I arrived there, but the employee responsible for the applications wasn't there that day. Her colleagues told me she would be available the next day. Though I couldn't take that step on that day, I could feel a bit closer to you. At least I know where exactly the office is and I won't have to search again.
The day I met Mrs. Imane
Tuesday, 13th of October 2015
As I was informed Mrs. Imane would be in her office the next day, I decided to go again, but with my mom this time, maybe that would give me more credit. We met her, and she was so nice to me. She asked about reasons as everyone believes am young though I don't! She asked about my plans, and I was so firm and clear. The normal question, what if you met someone and decided to get married, what if that man didn't like it that you are living with me, my answer was that he's the one who came too late, it is his problem not mine!
Anyway, she asked about some papers that I should bring for the application. And then she told me that maybe I won't get an approval as by law I should be over 45, and I am not 37 yet. I told her that I ask for an exception (This was what aunt Dina told me to do). She gave me her number and asked me to call in a few days to know if I got the exception. Also, she asked me to pray for guidance.
The HR letter
Thursday, 15th of October 2015
I go to work on Sundays and Wednesdays, but there was something huge in the office on Thursday, so I decided to go that Thursday instead. One of the papers I had to bring was an HR letter from my company. Our HR department is in another building and that was a bit of a hassle to get. I prayed the night before and guess what?! The HR head was in our office on Thursday. It is the first time I see him in the office since I was hired in February! I believe this is the answer for the prayer! I asked him for the letter and he was really nice and helpful. He said that I should get it by Sunday.
Another thing I had to do, is to find someone to guarantee my responsibility. And that this person should be a first degree relative. And as she considered me and mom as a family, she suggested that any of my uncles or aunt can do that. On that day, I called aunt Noha and asked her to support me in this. And she agreed though she wanted to know her responsibilities.
That day I felt so optimitic. I felt things are made easy and am moving on.
And though, I didn't receive the HR letter so soon, I had to wait till Wednesday, the 21st of October. On Tuesday the HR head called me and told me that the letter will be with the security that night, and I will be able to receive it the next morning.
On the next Saturday I went to the pension office for the armed forces to get another paper with the pension that me and mom receive. All these papers are mainly needed to claim my financial situation that we are ready to support a child. The paper took like 10 minutes to receive.
Monday the 26th I knew that I got the exception, I told Mrs. Imane that my papers are ready for application. And I asked for those responsibilities of the guarantor.
While working on all that I had a lot of other issues. I have discovered two months ago that I have a problem with my thyroid hormones, and that makes me really tired, and everything about my life is so hard to do. I was asking for a good doctor as I already have other problems with fibromyalgia. Till this moment I couldn't make a contact with a good one. I hope things will get better soon.
The failed application day
Thursday, 29th of October 2015
That morning I was so tired, and though I decided it is time to apply the file as all my papers are ready. I have been watching "how I met your mother" for a few months. I woke up early, made a good breakfast, and watched the last episode in the whole series. Well, it was inspiring. I will tell you about this one later.
I went to my room to organise the file, I made a copy of this file for you to check later. And, for my surprise, I couldn't find that divorce certificate! I kept searching for an hour and I had to wake my mom to find it! I was late, and I had to make some more photo copies of the papers.
When I arrived at the adoption office, Mrs. Imane had already left. I was so tired and upset. The streets were so crowded that the only thought I had in my head, is that I don't want you to grow up here!
One thing I learnt through the years, if you have a plan and you fail to achieve it, go and do something else so not to feel down. And so, I decided to go to the computer shop to buy new memory for my laptop, I needed that for my coaching business. The shop was so close to the office, but for the crowd I couldn't park my car! I had to wander a lot of streets in the area with no hope. I didn't give up, like I always don't. I went to the branch in city stars and bought that memory. Then, I was feeling good again!
The application day
Monday, 2nd of November 2015
There are other things happening in my life, I am starting a project with your aunt Mariam. This morning, we went and officially delegated a lawyer that we met the day before and had a long talk with. We wanted to move on with the project, and he seemed a real help. So, that morning, I prepared two files, one for the lawyer and another for the adoption application. Aunt Mariam passed to pick me up. We spent some good time in the investment office. Then I took your file and took a taxi to the adoption office. I tried to call Mrs. Imane but in vain. I thought I would go anyway. She was there. I gave her the file. She checked every document and said that the file was complete. She asked me to continue my prayers. And that I can start searching for you! And, maybe by the new year you will be home with me :)
This day is one of the happiest days since too long. I feel acheived. And I can feel you close. I am planning the next few steps. But, I decided that I won't start the search before the beginning of December.
Well, I know this one was too long. I didn't feel like writing or even reading. I am glad that I managed to remember everything to write it here. Thanks for the phone memory it helped a lot with this.
It is just a couple of months Maria :)
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