We've been in a "no contact situation" for so many years. It feels awkward to write, and I know it feels worse trying to get back in touch! A few years ago, I wanted to post this, exactly around the summer of 2020. Back then I came to the realization that my mother is a covert narcissist. The realization was traumatic, that I lost half the volume of my hair, and my gut health got worse to the point that I became intolerant to most foods, even fresh veggies! But, that learning about my mother made me realize a more important thing; you are my mirror! A month after you decided to leave, I got a call from a friend who used to work with your father, may his soul rest in peace. And, that call helped me understand how complicated your relationship with your father is. I knew it was complicated, but I didn't know to what extent! Back then I asked God, why now?! He left, why do you give me this info now! I couldn't find an answer and I went on with my life. About a coupl
They keep telling us that letting go is about forgiving and forgetting. They say when you do forgive and forget you are released from the past, from the abusive relationship, from the ghost of that person hunting you. But, what if you forgive, and forget, and try to move on but still feel stuck in their energy? As if they have octopus arms that keep dragging you back to their being, and there seems no way to escape! Maybe what you have been told all your life is wrong. Maybe in some cases it is not enough to just forgive and forget. Maybe, just maybe, you need to walk one extra mile in their favour so their arms are unwind and you are able run your own life. You believe he/she is a devil, who doesn't deserve good? Maybe they are, but the universe has other plans than having them punished directly for the wrong the did to you. Maybe, they are not as bad as you believe. Maybe, it is all about walking that extra mile to release yourself. It is about you, not about who they are or what