Mind, Heart & Soul

They keep telling us that letting go is about forgiving and forgetting. They say when you do forgive and forget you are released from the past, from the abusive relationship, from the ghost of that person hunting you. But, what if you forgive, and forget, and try to move on but still feel stuck in their energy? As if they have octopus arms that keep dragging you back to their being, and there seems no way to escape! Maybe what you have been told all your life is wrong. Maybe in some cases it is not enough to just forgive and forget. Maybe, just maybe, you need to walk one extra mile in their favour so their arms are unwind and you are able run your own life. You believe he/she is a devil, who doesn't deserve good? Maybe they are, but the universe has other plans than having them punished directly for the wrong the did to you. Maybe, they are not as bad as you believe. Maybe, it is all about walking that extra mile to release yourself. It is about you, not about who they are or what...

"When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it." - Paulo Coelho Intention is not a wish, it is a decision. A decision to make a change, a decision to keep going no matter what teasers could be thrown your way to change your mind. Intention is a feeling of peace inside, a feeling that you know exactly what you want. And that you know as well it may not be easy to achieve it. Intention means you decided to take that leap of faith, and there is no going back. If you have the real intentions, the universe will help you do it.

As you watch a baby grow, you see that this happens in phases; there's the phase when he didn't know how to sit, but then he learns to, then he starts to crawl, then walk, then talk...and so on. You never see a baby who sticks to any of these phases, or tries to go back to a previous one, he never decides to stop walking and lay in bed as he used to before he learned to sit. Phases are clear when it comes to those little humans. As we grow older, our growth and maturity happens inside of us, it is mental and emotional, not physical and tangible as it happens with the babies. But, we tend to not be willing to grow up or mature. We try to stick around that latest phase we have accomplished. We believe that growing up is painful. We need to learn from the babies that when a phase is over we should let go, and enjoy all the excitement about the new phase, never look back. We should love that we matured into a new person.

We are frequently challenged in life, life would ask a question and throw many answers from which we have to choose only one. By human nature, we tend to choose the easiest answer, which is unfortunately the wrong answer. You were challenged in the first place to grow, to learn something new about life or about yourself. It is a chance that life offers you to mature, to become a better version of you. Choosing the "easy" answer, or path won't take you anywhere. You will only keep running in spirals and you will have to face the same question again. When life throws a challenge in your way, take your time, think, find which of them makes you most uncomfortable. That is the right answer...the right path. All you need to do then is take the "leap of faith"...and before you know it all your fear will be gone, and everything becomes under control. Never let fear choose for you!

Wishing for something is one thing, and expecting how it is going to happen is another. We often wish for things expecting we get them a way or another, blinding ourselves from other odd ways that could lead to our wishes. Clinging to the method rather than the goal, focusing on the how and the when instead of being open to all possibilities. That is how we often have our wishes disregarded. Open your eyes and heart. Don't be afraid. Your wishes could be granted in the most extraordinary ways.

"I will be a failure"...She said... The only way you can "be a failure" is when you stop trying, and this is a decision. Though, from time to time you have to experience failure, so you learn new things about yourself. You grow up to a better version of yourself. And that is a decision too. When you fall down, you gotta decide if you will stay down or if you will pick yourself up again. When you stand up again, you do learning a lesson. While this happens, you may spend months or even years. And those years are not really wasted, actually they are your best. The ones you used to mature. Maybe you won't see a tangible result. But, deep inside you will feel it. You are not a failure, unless you decide to be.

When you know yourself more, when you are being the one you wish to be, you will enjoy your company and never feel lonely again. Look inside of you, face your demons. It is the things we bury deep inside that make us seek others, trying to ignore the harsh feelings hunting us, and fill the emptiness we have. Facing those things is the first step you need to take to know yourself more, change yourself to the one you wish to be, and be happy.

Thought It will take me longer to start writing again, but, what's happening in my life these days needs reflection! All my posts here were a way I reflected on my life and incidents to get more understanding and awareness about myself. Sharing these thoughts maybe they could inspire others who need inspiration.  Twenty years ago, I had my special beliefs about mysef. Beliefs about what suits me best, and how I shoud live my life. Those beliefs were too odd that they brought doubt in me. For the past twenty years I have been trying so hard to fit in the "even" society. And what happened is that I spent those years feeling lost and confused. I have lost a lot during those years. Disregarding that I am twenty years older, my health is not as it used to be. I look older, with few wrinkles aroud my eyes. It took a broken heart to reach that point I am claiming now. During the past couple of weeks I have been feeling a storm of change, and deep inside it felt the same as it di...

Living: Living here is used as a generic word for “living the moment”. When someone is “living the moment” he feels alive, enjoying every moment, experiencing all the feelings and emotions he should in that special moment. He is totally present, feeling relaxed, and hopeful about his future. Waiting: As explained in Oxford dictionary; the action of staying where one is or delaying action until a particular time or event: ‘years of waiting’ On the contrary to “living the moment”, when someone is in a waiting state, he is probably wasting his time and emotions, not experiencing the feelings he should experience in his present moment. Not being there, not understanding. Worried and anxious about what to come that he doesn’t notice the beauty of his current moment. Waiting involves: intolerance, anxiety, anticipation. When someone is in a waiting state he starts to believe things have taken so long to happen. And this involves doubt that he is in charge of his own l...

This coaching model is specific for anyone who had a great loss and lead to their hearts broken. A broken heart can happen for many reasons, like the death of someone dear or the end of a relationship. The sure thing is that nothing remains the same after that incident. The world looks different. The person starts to question all his beliefs. He may also start to feel he’s already dead! What actually happens is that this person denies his feelings, and he starts to detach from life. At that point, this person needs to “Come Back to life”. It is a journey where he is reborn after that experience he has been through. He is a totally new person, who has learnt a lot with his past experiences and sees the world from a more advanced perspective. Kheper is the scarab beetle. It is a god in ancient Egyptian religion that represents creation and rebirth. Kheper or (Xeper) is a transcription of an ancient Egyptian word meaning to come into being, to change, to occur, to happen, to exist, ...

Before I start, I dedicate this to Moustafa Hosny. His program this year "Live the Moment" has been an inspiration to me. The program is about moments that change life. That topic defines the niche I decided to specialize in, transformational coaching. And, watching the few past episodes has inspired me for whatever is coming next. Transformational coaching and crossroads Transformational coaching is coaching for clients who need to make shifts in their lives, either this is forced or by choice. Crossroads is a part of any transformation the client could be going through. And that is when the client has to take the step and make a decision to transform. In this article I explain how the client sees transformation and what could support him making the decision to change. So, what is a crossroad? It is the moment that we have to make a choice, turn right, left, or keep going on the same road. Decision making is a process we go through every day, all the time. But...

Just an idea came to my mind, people tend to lose hope cause they add the "when" parameter to the "what" they want to achieve or see; * They worry about the "when" more than the "what". * When they can't see the "when" they lose vision of the "what". * They think the "what" is impossible when the "when" is not given. If we think of anything we have achieved, or anything happened around the world, we will find out that no one ever knew when exactly he will be able to achieve his goal or get his change done. When Edison was trying to invent the bulb, he didn't know when exactly he will see it working in front of his eyes. When you applied for university, you didn't have knowledge when you would graduate, yes, you knew it should take 4 years or so, but, were you so sure this is the time it would take to graduate? You could get sick and miss some exams, and lose a year. You could face trouble ...

As defined in wikipedia; The comfort zone is a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance, usually without a sense of risk. While the optimal performance zone is a zone in which the performance of a person can be enhanced and in which their skills can be optimized. This zone is reached by increasing the levels of anxiety to reach more stress, resulting in enhanced levels of concentration and focus. From the definitions above one can deduce; - Leaving comfort zone implies risk taking. Taking risks is not that scary if they are calculated. Calculated risk is not 100% safe, it is still a risk, but it is not lunatic too. - Comfort zone doesn't mean a happy zone. It is a zone that we are used to. We know everything about it, we got used to the pain within it. - Leaving a comfort zone doesn't mean a dramatic change. In order to keep the person safe, the change need...