Mind, Heart & Soul

"When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it." - Paulo Coelho Intention is not a wish, it is a decision. A decision to make a change, a decision to keep going no matter what teasers could be thrown your way to change your mind. Intention is a feeling of peace inside, a feeling that you know exactly what you want. And that you know as well it may not be easy to achieve it. Intention means you decided to take that leap of faith, and there is no going back. If you have the real intentions, the universe will help you do it.

As you watch a baby grow, you see that this happens in phases; there's the phase when he didn't know how to sit, but then he learns to, then he starts to crawl, then walk, then talk...and so on. You never see a baby who sticks to any of these phases, or tries to go back to a previous one, he never decides to stop walking and lay in bed as he used to before he learned to sit. Phases are clear when it comes to those little humans. As we grow older, our growth and maturity happens inside of us, it is mental and emotional, not physical and tangible as it happens with the babies. But, we tend to not be willing to grow up or mature. We try to stick around that latest phase we have accomplished. We believe that growing up is painful. We need to learn from the babies that when a phase is over we should let go, and enjoy all the excitement about the new phase, never look back. We should love that we matured into a new person.

We are frequently challenged in life, life would ask a question and throw many answers from which we have to choose only one. By human nature, we tend to choose the easiest answer, which is unfortunately the wrong answer. You were challenged in the first place to grow, to learn something new about life or about yourself. It is a chance that life offers you to mature, to become a better version of you. Choosing the "easy" answer, or path won't take you anywhere. You will only keep running in spirals and you will have to face the same question again. When life throws a challenge in your way, take your time, think, find which of them makes you most uncomfortable. That is the right answer...the right path. All you need to do then is take the "leap of faith"...and before you know it all your fear will be gone, and everything becomes under control. Never let fear choose for you!

Wishing for something is one thing, and expecting how it is going to happen is another. We often wish for things expecting we get them a way or another, blinding ourselves from other odd ways that could lead to our wishes. Clinging to the method rather than the goal, focusing on the how and the when instead of being open to all possibilities. That is how we often have our wishes disregarded. Open your eyes and heart. Don't be afraid. Your wishes could be granted in the most extraordinary ways.

"I will be a failure"...She said... The only way you can "be a failure" is when you stop trying, and this is a decision. Though, from time to time you have to experience failure, so you learn new things about yourself. You grow up to a better version of yourself. And that is a decision too. When you fall down, you gotta decide if you will stay down or if you will pick yourself up again. When you stand up again, you do learning a lesson. While this happens, you may spend months or even years. And those years are not really wasted, actually they are your best. The ones you used to mature. Maybe you won't see a tangible result. But, deep inside you will feel it. You are not a failure, unless you decide to be.

When you know yourself more, when you are being the one you wish to be, you will enjoy your company and never feel lonely again. Look inside of you, face your demons. It is the things we bury deep inside that make us seek others, trying to ignore the harsh feelings hunting us, and fill the emptiness we have. Facing those things is the first step you need to take to know yourself more, change yourself to the one you wish to be, and be happy.